“It’s not you, it’s me…” The College Decision Break-up


“It’s not you, it’s me.” Usually used in an awkward break with your boyfriend or girlfriend, but can also work on breaking up with a college.

We get it. You’ve spent 13+ years preparing yourself for college, you spent the last three or four on your specific college search, the last year you’ve narrowed down your list to your top picks and now it’s time for that tough decision. It’s a four year commitment to attend the college and then after that you’re an alum for the rest of your life.  Big decision right?

So you’ve done it. You’ve made your choice and have picked the school that is the best for you, congratulations!  Let them know, but don’t forget about the other schools that were still on your list.

Think of it this way.  Imagine you get asked to prom by a bunch of people.  There are a couple that you can say no to right away and then two other people ask you, one a great pal – someone you could really enjoy the night with, and the other, your dream date. You decide to go with your dream date and you tell them yes, but don’t forget about your pal!

It might be really hard to tell your pal that you found someone who’s just a better fit for you, but it isn’t fair to keep them on the line, is it? It’s time to have that “It’s not you, it’s me” talk.

It’s the same with picking your perfect college. You’ve gotten your offers and now you need to respond. If you’ve already bought your ticket to go with your dream date, you need to let your other options know that as much fun as you might have together you just found a better option for you.

As college admissions people, we’ve not only invested time working with you but we’ve also become personally invested.  We don’t want to waste your time or clog your mailbox; it’s time to let us know.

Now don’t get me wrong, you have until May 1st to make your decision and if you need that time, take it, but if you’re decision is made, make sure you tell everyone else.  It’s exciting, so scream it from the mountain tops!

If you’re still stuck and are working on making that decision, call your admissions counselor! We have all sorts of resources at our disposal that can hopefully make your decision easier!